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It's Monday. Joy of joys.
Not necessarily angry ranting, at least not to begin with. Just...confused, tired and upset drops of words. I don't know what I want to say even, just need to get it out.
My uncle is an alcoholic, has been for a very long time. He's done the 'typical' on and off the wagon thing for years. Possibly decades, I don't know when it started for sure. But, I thought that for the last few years at least he was making a comitted, true effort to stop drinking for himself, not just for the people who are concerned about him.
So, anyway. Since he seemed to be staying sober and my grandparents need some help physically around the ranch, they were able to get a hardship clause so they could have two trailers. And let my uncle live in the second one. Which works out great - everyone's happy.
Except, we found out this weekend that it's all shot down the tubes. He went out and got so drunk that a male friend wasn't at all sure he could even help him from the truck to the house. And then...found out that he's been drinking all summer, if not longer... and he's turned into a belligerent, aggressive drunk on top of it. Also found out that he's not helping much around the place...which was the whole point, other than being able to help him get on his feet truly.
So now...don't know what's going to happen. My grandparents haven't decided what they're going to offer him as choices. They have given him so very many chances over the years, and this is so hard with them to deal with. The last thing in the world I want to see is them get hurt, and this just sucks. Anyway.
It's just distressing. I feel bad for my uncle, but there's only so much someone else can actually DO, and then it's up to them to run with the ball. I'm just not sure what's going to happen, and even if they decide to not let him live there anymore (since he clearly understood and agreed it wasn't acceptable before moving in)...it's still hard and I'm concerned about his welfare, but there's nothing to be done, at the same time. Arrgh. I don't even know if I'm making sense at this point. Jumbled mess of words garbled all together. I'm just concerned about everyone and want everyone to be happy, and it's likely not going to happen. Damnit.
Well. We'll see what happens. My grandparents, mom and other uncle were talking ALL weekend. Went and saw the grandparents last night after hiking, and they seemed relaxed. So either they've come to a bit of peace with the need for making a decision or they were so tired of thinking about it they wanted to just stop. hehe. I don't know at this point.
*sigh* Well. That's that. And I gotta get to work soon. Yey.
Not necessarily angry ranting, at least not to begin with. Just...confused, tired and upset drops of words. I don't know what I want to say even, just need to get it out.
My uncle is an alcoholic, has been for a very long time. He's done the 'typical' on and off the wagon thing for years. Possibly decades, I don't know when it started for sure. But, I thought that for the last few years at least he was making a comitted, true effort to stop drinking for himself, not just for the people who are concerned about him.
So, anyway. Since he seemed to be staying sober and my grandparents need some help physically around the ranch, they were able to get a hardship clause so they could have two trailers. And let my uncle live in the second one. Which works out great - everyone's happy.
Except, we found out this weekend that it's all shot down the tubes. He went out and got so drunk that a male friend wasn't at all sure he could even help him from the truck to the house. And then...found out that he's been drinking all summer, if not longer... and he's turned into a belligerent, aggressive drunk on top of it. Also found out that he's not helping much around the place...which was the whole point, other than being able to help him get on his feet truly.
So now...don't know what's going to happen. My grandparents haven't decided what they're going to offer him as choices. They have given him so very many chances over the years, and this is so hard with them to deal with. The last thing in the world I want to see is them get hurt, and this just sucks. Anyway.
It's just distressing. I feel bad for my uncle, but there's only so much someone else can actually DO, and then it's up to them to run with the ball. I'm just not sure what's going to happen, and even if they decide to not let him live there anymore (since he clearly understood and agreed it wasn't acceptable before moving in)...it's still hard and I'm concerned about his welfare, but there's nothing to be done, at the same time. Arrgh. I don't even know if I'm making sense at this point. Jumbled mess of words garbled all together. I'm just concerned about everyone and want everyone to be happy, and it's likely not going to happen. Damnit.
Well. We'll see what happens. My grandparents, mom and other uncle were talking ALL weekend. Went and saw the grandparents last night after hiking, and they seemed relaxed. So either they've come to a bit of peace with the need for making a decision or they were so tired of thinking about it they wanted to just stop. hehe. I don't know at this point.
*sigh* Well. That's that. And I gotta get to work soon. Yey.
